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Men Behaving Badly: The Root of the Problem

The conversation surrounding sexual abuse and harassment continues, as it seems this time of reckoning is long overdue. While many articles written about this watershed moment ask questions concerning the women involved, it’s crucial that we don’t forget what this is...

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Should Women Come Forward?

In the midst of the fallout surrounding the Weinstein abuse scandal (and with more accusations against other big names coming out everyday), culturally, there is a lot to talk about. It’s hard. It’s painful. But it’s important. And as ugly as the subject matter is,...

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Sexual Abuse, #MeToo, and What We Can Do

Over the past few weeks, we’ve seen a flood of allegations of sexual misconduct against Hollywood bigwigs (first with Harvey Weinstein, then others like Kevin Spacey, Dustin Hoffman, and Ben Affleck). This prompted the social media hashtag #metoo in which women shared their own experiences of being sexually mistreated. The effect was sobering (the hashtag was posted or tweeted out over 200,000 times), and it became apparent just how disturbingly prevalent this problem is.

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Dating Abuse: What Parents Can Do To Help Their Daughters

For parents of daughters, there’s not much that strikes as much fear into our hearts as does the prospect of our girls beginning to date. The trope of a man cleaning his gun as a young man comes to pick up his daughter for a date may be for laughs, but for many of us,...

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Are Your Relationships Struggling Because of Your Career?

So you’ve arrived in the business world. You made it. Lots of hard work, long hours, and sacrifice. Congratulations! Society certainly values business success.  It used to be that climbing the career ladder was only for men, but now, women are in the arena, too. The...

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Growing-Up Girl

It’s a great time to be a girl. Never in history has there been a time where females have been so supported and so empowered. And yet, girls still struggle internally. They are known for internalizing their feelings (more than boys), which means they can look just...

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1-Minute Read: Empowering Your Teen

Most of us have long forgotten what it’s like to live the inner life of a teenager. The years of crushing self-doubt, desperation to be accepted, and search for identity. Adolescents feel life quite intensely, but most are ill-equipped to reflect objectively. They...

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1-Minute Read: Talk it Out as Your Kids Go Back to School

As a parent, it’s essential to have age-appropriate discussions with our children about tough situations they might face in the upcoming school year. These topics might include: Bullying Drama with friends Puberty Appropriate relationships with others The power of...

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1-Minute Read: Back to School Tips for Parents

So long summer and hello school! Ease the back-to-school transition with these tips for a great year! Back-to-school time can be fraught with mixed emotions for children and parents. Help your family’s transition go as smoothly as possible with these tips: Establish A...

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The Silent Crisis Among Boys

Society has changed in a way that supports girls in breaking free from gender-role stereotyping. Girls finally have more power to authentically show up in the world (to be their true selves). But “What about boys?” They face challenges too. Have we as a society gone...

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Life Is Filled With Transitions

Six years ago I started my own counseling practice - Girls Stand Strong. At the time my daughters were in elementary and middle school. I had found my passion - EMPOWERING GIRLS… to live up to their potential to understand and manage their emotions to navigate social...

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1-Minute Read: How Do You Cope With Stress?

I often hear from my clients (both women and girls) how STRESSED they are feeling. Stress is real and the effects can range from mild to serious. Studies show that chronic stress can have life-long impacts on our health (emotional and physical). To counteract stress,...

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1-Minute Read: Worried About a Possible Eating Disorder?

Most of us are familiar with Anorexia and Bulimia but there are other, not so obvious, eating disorders as well -- binge eating disorder, purge eating disorder, and night eating syndrome. Some warning signs of possible future problems include: • Over exercising •...

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1-Minute Read: To All Girls Who Struggle with Body Image

I read that 80% of all girls dislike their bodies. How very sad. Yet girls are not alone in the body-image struggle. Women also struggle. We are bombarded with images from the advertising media and social media about how we should look (i.e. perfect, 6-pack abs,...

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1-Minute Read: Does Your Child Have an Invisible Struggle?

Does your child struggle with forgetting to write down assignments, losing their homework, remembering what you just said? If so, your child may have an invisible struggle such as ADD/ADHD, Executive Function Disorder or a processing disorder. These are surprisingly...

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1-Minute Read: Is your daughter self-harming?

I know this is a scary thought, but some girls will cut themselves when they feel overwhelmed emotionally (it's a bit more complicated than that, but that’s the gist of it). Many girls struggle to deal with negative emotions and these emotions can be a trigger for...

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1-Minute Read: Helping Girls Deal with Emotional Breakdowns

Emotional breakdowns can become all too common during the preteen and teen years. We all recognize the signs: tears, anger, blow-ups, heightened sensitivity, running to their rooms and slamming the door. Whether the cause is hormones, family or relationship issues or...

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1-Minute Read: Healthy & Productive Conflict

Being able to navigate relationship conflict is essential to happiness and success in life. Conflict often indicates a struggle or a state of opposition. Because many girls and women are uncomfortable with disagreement and seek to "people please", they perceive...

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1-Minute Read: Why Girls Have More Anxiety Than Boys

Consider this as one reason why girls have more anxiety than boys… girls use social media in different (and more harmful) ways than boys. Girls tend to post more pictures of themselves (usually looking cute). Boys tend to post more pictures of themselves doing...

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1-Minute Read: Girls and Quiet Leadership

Not all leaders are loud or bossy. Not all girls are loud or bossy. Many parents want to encourage their daughters to be leaders, but many girls shy away from this title - and for good reason. Girls have different personalities and some are shy and quiet and that's...

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1-Minute Read: Don’t let your emotions runs your life

Life gives you plenty of reasons to get mad, sad, irritated and frustrated. These feelings are all okay. Sometimes, however, it may feel as though your emotions are taking over. If your emotions are feeling overwhelming to you, causing trouble in your relationships or...

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1-Minute Read: Narcissists will drain the life out of you

A narcissist often presents as super confident, but what lies behind the mask is a fragile self-esteem.  Narcissists have to be right and cannot handle criticism.   And lastly, they don't care about you (though they claim to) and they will drain the life out of you....

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1-Minute Read: Bad behavior – Don’t accept it!

As a general rule I am sure we all agree on this, but you would be surprised how many women allow others to treat them poorly. This includes spouses, children, co-workers and friends. My experience in working with women is that many have conflict avoidance. I get it....

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1-Minute Read: A path to healthy self-esteem and happiness

Want to know a better path to healthy self-esteem and happiness? Try some self-compassion. In other words, cut yourself some slack! In my work with girls and women, I have found self-compassion to be an area where women are lacking. We women can be so hard on...

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1-Minute Read: Ever have a difficult relationship?

Have you ever had a friendship that left you feeling confused, hurt or angry? It's not only our children who struggle with difficult friendships. Adults can struggle with friendships just as much as our kids. We all have them! Here are some questions I frequently...

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1-Minute Read: How to Deal with Strong Emotions

Why aren't we teaching our children how to understand their emotions? Maybe it's because we don't understand ours? Maybe it's because we have been taught to ignore or deny what we are feeling. Feelings don't lie. Our feelings are never wrong. Three steps to dealing...

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1-Minute Read: Confidence!

I have always been curious about confidence. What is it? How do you get it? Why do some people have more of it than others? As a woman and as a counselor I have been on my own journey to understand the mystery of confidence. In the February issue of the Warrenton...

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1-Minute Read: Talk About What Hurts!

We all have struggled emotionally.  I have.  You have.  Some of us talk about it and others do not. If I had not talked about my divorce when I was going through it, I would have suffered a lot more.  If I had tried to deal with my parenting struggles alone, I would...

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1-Minute Read: It’s Going to be a GREAT Year!

Why not think it's going to be a great year?  Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?  I do. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that focuses on the bright side.  A growing number of people believe in the effects of positive thinking.  Yet, it will take...

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1-Minute Read: Break the Cycle of Holiday Stress-Eating!

If you find yourself stress-eating during the holidays (or anytime), please know how very common this is for women in particular. Maybe it's our way of self-nurturing or maybe it's just how we handle stress. I have noticed with many of my clients who stress-eat that...

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1-Minute Read: Holiday Stress Getting to You?

Sometimes I think that the holiday stress is now in my DNA.  What about you?  After years of having stressful holiday moments, is it possible that I anticipate the stress without checking into the reality of my holiday situation?  Probably! Just the thoughts of all...

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1 Minute Read: The Confidence Gap

Research shows that females are less confident than males.  In my book, confidence is as important as competence. I was not confident as a child or a young adult.  I felt held back, frustrated, stuck, confused and hopeless at times.  I learned how to be confident...

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1-Minute Read: It’s easy to fall in love but…

Remember when you were planning your wedding, your future, and your entire life with the love of your life?  You were excited for your future and just knew you would live happily ever after!!!  But then... life happened. You got busy. You had kids.  He lost his job....

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1-Minute Read: Have You Been Hurt in a Relationship?

I have spent many years researching and trying to understand confusing, painful and difficult relationships.  I have had my share.  We all have.  I have challenging family relationships.  I have been divorced.  And yes, I have been hurt. We will always have...

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1-Minute Read: Secrecy and Silence Keep Shame Alive

Shame is like arsenic to women.  It literally can destroy us from the inside out.  We can feel shame so deeply… and we are so good at hiding it. Secrecy and silence keep shame alive. By now you know that I am an advocate of talking about the feelings we try so hard to...

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1-Minute Read: Be Your Best Self

OK, but how?  Don't we all want to be our best selves?  Yet do we really know what this means?  Well, I believe it means something different for every woman and every girl. This past Sunday, I was feeling down and self-critical about my parenting and my work.  I had a...

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1-Minute Read: Go into your POWER not your wounds.

In my last article I talked about emotional wounds and "Woundology". This time I want to focus on our ability to tap into our strengths and our personal power. How often do we hear the question, “How are you today?” Do we ever hear a response like "I'm great; feeling...

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1-Minute Read: Do you suffer from Woundology?

Woundology, as I define it, is the attachment to our emotional wounds in life. We all have them. None of us made it through childhood without emotional wounds and scars. Some common childhood wounds could be: experiencing favoritism neglect & abuse physical...

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1-Minute Read: STOP Treating Thoughts as Threats

Many of us, myself included, easily become frightened, confused and anxious by our thoughts. I do notice that women in particular tend to "catastrophize" in their thinking. They jump to a worse-case scenario without realizing it and are off and running with...

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1-Minute Read: Feelings are NOT Facts!

A common mistake I see people make is that they assume their feelings are facts. Yet feelings change throughout a day and certainly throughout a lifetime. For example, if you are feeling particularly sad, do not assume that you are necessarily depressed or that you...

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1-Minute Read: How do I talk about it?

Do you have any idea how many women – just like you – find it difficult to talk about their struggles, their hurts, their perceived failures, their damaged relationships, or their deep emotions like sadness and anger? A lot. You are not alone. Many of my clients...

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1-Minute Read: Did you make your bed today?

Making your bed may seem like a small thing to you, but never underestimate the power of focusing on your small accomplishments. I do make my bed most days. I pay attention to how I feel after my bed is made. I take pride in a pretty bed. I take pride in my home and...

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1-Minute Read: 5 Rules to Healthy Arguing

You might be thinking “Healthy arguing?! What is this woman talking about?” It’s the art of managing how you conduct yourself during a disagreement or argument which proves to be beneficial to everyone involved. So, as promised in my previous newsletter, here are the...

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1-Minute Read: Over-thinking something in your relationship?

Chances are if you’re a female (and if you’re reading this, you most likely are) then you have experienced the agonizing frustration of over-thinking an issue or an argument. But how do you know if you are over thinking? If you could stop, wouldn't you? My experience...

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1-Minute Read: What’s happening to me? Why am I always upset?

Ever feel this way? I’m sure you have. We all have. I know from experience (and from my clients) that when this happens, it can be very scary. If we are lucky, we may know what's upsetting us (and I'm not minimizing this) but often times we have no clue. Possibly we...

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One-Minute Read: Life Experiences Are Never Wasted

 We ALL have to deal with challenging and difficult situations, people and relationships in our lives. If our expectation is that life should be effortless and others have it easier, then we will certainly be disappointed. Some of us are dealing with loss (death or...

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