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The Silent Crisis Among Boys

Society has changed in a way that supports girls in breaking free from gender-role stereotyping. Girls finally have more power to authentically show up in the world (to be their true selves). But “What about boys?” They face challenges too. Have we as a society gone...

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Life Is Filled With Transitions

Six years ago I started my own counseling practice - Girls Stand Strong. At the time my daughters were in elementary and middle school. I had found my passion - EMPOWERING GIRLS… to live up to their potential to understand and manage their emotions to navigate social...

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1-Minute Read: How Do You Cope With Stress?

I often hear from my clients (both women and girls) how STRESSED they are feeling. Stress is real and the effects can range from mild to serious. Studies show that chronic stress can have life-long impacts on our health (emotional and physical). To counteract stress,...

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1-Minute Read: Worried About a Possible Eating Disorder?

Most of us are familiar with Anorexia and Bulimia but there are other, not so obvious, eating disorders as well -- binge eating disorder, purge eating disorder, and night eating syndrome. Some warning signs of possible future problems include: • Over exercising •...

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1-Minute Read: To All Girls Who Struggle with Body Image

I read that 80% of all girls dislike their bodies. How very sad. Yet girls are not alone in the body-image struggle. Women also struggle. We are bombarded with images from the advertising media and social media about how we should look (i.e. perfect, 6-pack abs,...

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1-Minute Read: Does Your Child Have an Invisible Struggle?

Does your child struggle with forgetting to write down assignments, losing their homework, remembering what you just said? If so, your child may have an invisible struggle such as ADD/ADHD, Executive Function Disorder or a processing disorder. These are surprisingly...

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1-Minute Read: Is your daughter self-harming?

I know this is a scary thought, but some girls will cut themselves when they feel overwhelmed emotionally (it's a bit more complicated than that, but that’s the gist of it). Many girls struggle to deal with negative emotions and these emotions can be a trigger for...

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1-Minute Read: Helping Girls Deal with Emotional Breakdowns

Emotional breakdowns can become all too common during the preteen and teen years. We all recognize the signs: tears, anger, blow-ups, heightened sensitivity, running to their rooms and slamming the door. Whether the cause is hormones, family or relationship issues or...

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1-Minute Read: Healthy & Productive Conflict

Being able to navigate relationship conflict is essential to happiness and success in life. Conflict often indicates a struggle or a state of opposition. Because many girls and women are uncomfortable with disagreement and seek to "people please", they perceive...

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1-Minute Read: Why Girls Have More Anxiety Than Boys

Consider this as one reason why girls have more anxiety than boys… girls use social media in different (and more harmful) ways than boys. Girls tend to post more pictures of themselves (usually looking cute). Boys tend to post more pictures of themselves doing...

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1-Minute Read: Girls and Quiet Leadership

Not all leaders are loud or bossy. Not all girls are loud or bossy. Many parents want to encourage their daughters to be leaders, but many girls shy away from this title - and for good reason. Girls have different personalities and some are shy and quiet and that's...

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1-Minute Read: Don’t let your emotions runs your life

Life gives you plenty of reasons to get mad, sad, irritated and frustrated. These feelings are all okay. Sometimes, however, it may feel as though your emotions are taking over. If your emotions are feeling overwhelming to you, causing trouble in your relationships or...

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1-Minute Read: Narcissists will drain the life out of you

A narcissist often presents as super confident, but what lies behind the mask is a fragile self-esteem.  Narcissists have to be right and cannot handle criticism.   And lastly, they don't care about you (though they claim to) and they will drain the life out of you....

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1-Minute Read: Bad behavior – Don’t accept it!

As a general rule I am sure we all agree on this, but you would be surprised how many women allow others to treat them poorly. This includes spouses, children, co-workers and friends. My experience in working with women is that many have conflict avoidance. I get it....

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1-Minute Read: A path to healthy self-esteem and happiness

Want to know a better path to healthy self-esteem and happiness? Try some self-compassion. In other words, cut yourself some slack! In my work with girls and women, I have found self-compassion to be an area where women are lacking. We women can be so hard on...

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1-Minute Read: Ever have a difficult relationship?

Have you ever had a friendship that left you feeling confused, hurt or angry? It's not only our children who struggle with difficult friendships. Adults can struggle with friendships just as much as our kids. We all have them! Here are some questions I frequently...

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1-Minute Read: How to Deal with Strong Emotions

Why aren't we teaching our children how to understand their emotions? Maybe it's because we don't understand ours? Maybe it's because we have been taught to ignore or deny what we are feeling. Feelings don't lie. Our feelings are never wrong. Three steps to dealing...

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1-Minute Read: Confidence!

I have always been curious about confidence. What is it? How do you get it? Why do some people have more of it than others? As a woman and as a counselor I have been on my own journey to understand the mystery of confidence. In the February issue of the Warrenton...

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1-Minute Read: Talk About What Hurts!

We all have struggled emotionally.  I have.  You have.  Some of us talk about it and others do not. If I had not talked about my divorce when I was going through it, I would have suffered a lot more.  If I had tried to deal with my parenting struggles alone, I would...

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1-Minute Read: It’s Going to be a GREAT Year!

Why not think it's going to be a great year?  Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?  I do. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that focuses on the bright side.  A growing number of people believe in the effects of positive thinking.  Yet, it will take...

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1-Minute Read: Break the Cycle of Holiday Stress-Eating!

If you find yourself stress-eating during the holidays (or anytime), please know how very common this is for women in particular. Maybe it's our way of self-nurturing or maybe it's just how we handle stress. I have noticed with many of my clients who stress-eat that...

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1-Minute Read: Holiday Stress Getting to You?

Sometimes I think that the holiday stress is now in my DNA.  What about you?  After years of having stressful holiday moments, is it possible that I anticipate the stress without checking into the reality of my holiday situation?  Probably! Just the thoughts of all...

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1 Minute Read: The Confidence Gap

Research shows that females are less confident than males.  In my book, confidence is as important as competence. I was not confident as a child or a young adult.  I felt held back, frustrated, stuck, confused and hopeless at times.  I learned how to be confident...

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1-Minute Read: It’s easy to fall in love but…

Remember when you were planning your wedding, your future, and your entire life with the love of your life?  You were excited for your future and just knew you would live happily ever after!!!  But then... life happened. You got busy. You had kids.  He lost his job....

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1-Minute Read: Have You Been Hurt in a Relationship?

I have spent many years researching and trying to understand confusing, painful and difficult relationships.  I have had my share.  We all have.  I have challenging family relationships.  I have been divorced.  And yes, I have been hurt. We will always have...

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1-Minute Read: Secrecy and Silence Keep Shame Alive

Shame is like arsenic to women.  It literally can destroy us from the inside out.  We can feel shame so deeply… and we are so good at hiding it. Secrecy and silence keep shame alive. By now you know that I am an advocate of talking about the feelings we try so hard to...

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1-Minute Read: Be Your Best Self

OK, but how?  Don't we all want to be our best selves?  Yet do we really know what this means?  Well, I believe it means something different for every woman and every girl. This past Sunday, I was feeling down and self-critical about my parenting and my work.  I had a...

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1-Minute Read: Go into your POWER not your wounds.

In my last article I talked about emotional wounds and "Woundology". This time I want to focus on our ability to tap into our strengths and our personal power. How often do we hear the question, “How are you today?” Do we ever hear a response like "I'm great; feeling...

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1-Minute Read: Do you suffer from Woundology?

Woundology, as I define it, is the attachment to our emotional wounds in life. We all have them. None of us made it through childhood without emotional wounds and scars. Some common childhood wounds could be: experiencing favoritism neglect & abuse physical...

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1-Minute Read: STOP Treating Thoughts as Threats

Many of us, myself included, easily become frightened, confused and anxious by our thoughts. I do notice that women in particular tend to "catastrophize" in their thinking. They jump to a worse-case scenario without realizing it and are off and running with...

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1-Minute Read: Feelings are NOT Facts!

A common mistake I see people make is that they assume their feelings are facts. Yet feelings change throughout a day and certainly throughout a lifetime. For example, if you are feeling particularly sad, do not assume that you are necessarily depressed or that you...

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1-Minute Read: How do I talk about it?

Do you have any idea how many women – just like you – find it difficult to talk about their struggles, their hurts, their perceived failures, their damaged relationships, or their deep emotions like sadness and anger? A lot. You are not alone. Many of my clients...

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1-Minute Read: Did you make your bed today?

Making your bed may seem like a small thing to you, but never underestimate the power of focusing on your small accomplishments. I do make my bed most days. I pay attention to how I feel after my bed is made. I take pride in a pretty bed. I take pride in my home and...

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1-Minute Read: 5 Rules to Healthy Arguing

You might be thinking “Healthy arguing?! What is this woman talking about?” It’s the art of managing how you conduct yourself during a disagreement or argument which proves to be beneficial to everyone involved. So, as promised in my previous newsletter, here are the...

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1-Minute Read: Over-thinking something in your relationship?

Chances are if you’re a female (and if you’re reading this, you most likely are) then you have experienced the agonizing frustration of over-thinking an issue or an argument. But how do you know if you are over thinking? If you could stop, wouldn't you? My experience...

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1-Minute Read: What’s happening to me? Why am I always upset?

Ever feel this way? I’m sure you have. We all have. I know from experience (and from my clients) that when this happens, it can be very scary. If we are lucky, we may know what's upsetting us (and I'm not minimizing this) but often times we have no clue. Possibly we...

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One-Minute Read: Life Experiences Are Never Wasted

 We ALL have to deal with challenging and difficult situations, people and relationships in our lives. If our expectation is that life should be effortless and others have it easier, then we will certainly be disappointed. Some of us are dealing with loss (death or...

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One-Minute Read: Change One Thing

It’s easy to get overwhelmed when we want to start making changes in our lives. So start with one thing you would like to change about yourself. It could be controlling your impulsiveness so you don’t lash out at the ones you love. It could be a decision to be more...

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One-Minute Read: What Are You Tolerating?

What are you tolerating in your relationships that you should not be? Arrogance, rudeness, disrespect, putdowns? Why are you tolerating this? Where did you learn to tolerate being mistreated? You matter!   You can learn how to respond (not react) to mistreatment. You...

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One-Minute Read: Who’s Driving Your Bus?

The correct answer should be YOU. We all should be in the driver’s seat of our own lives. It can be so easy for a woman to get in the passenger’s seat -- or even the back seat -- and just go along for the ride.  To become a bystander.  To let other people make the...

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1-Minute Read: Hear with new ears!

Rarely do we “hear” new information after we reach a certain age or stage in our life. We simply stop processing familiar sights, sounds and people because we are so accustomed to them. As we age, however, we also mature and our perspective changes.  Therefore, we...

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1-Minute Read: Future Problem or Present Problem?

How many of us spend a lot of time worrying about an issue in the future – one that may or may not ever happen? Don’t we have enough things to deal with right now? Yes! First, decide what’s a current problem and what is a future one. Most of the things we worry about...

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1 Minute Read: Stop The Arguing!

Many of us get stuck in an arguing pattern in our relationships and we can't seem to get out of it.   Here is my advice:  Interrupt the pattern.   It is normal and understandable that we all have emotional reactions when something upsets us so I'm not saying we...

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1 Minute Read: What’s Draining Your Energy?

There are three main areas to look at: Your activities.  Are you spending too much time doing things that drain your energy?  Most of us do.   Look for ways to scale back, ask for help, delegate or say NO.  Choose activities which give you energy.  This could be...

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Why do we think we have to multitask all of the time?

Recently I was at home on a call with my business coach. I was completely focused on our conversation when I just happened to notice that my dog’s shed hair had decided to congregate under my kitchen table.  So, not wanting to waste time, I decided that I could clean...

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