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3 Strategies to Cope With Social Anxiety

Have you ever felt anxious in social situations? Maybe you become extremely insecure or aware of your perceived shortcomings and have a hard time relaxing or communicating with other people. While it’s normal to sometimes feel a heightened sense of nervousness...

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4 Steps To Managing Your Emotions

Part of being human is experiencing emotion, or having those inner feelings about our relationships, our jobs, ourselves, and every other part of our lives. Many women and girls seem to struggle when it comes to emotional overload. How are we supposed to cope with...

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3 Ways To Improve Your Assertiveness

Assertiveness is a characteristic of communication that can sometimes be misunderstood. Some may think of it as being bossy, power-hungry, or always wanting to get your way, but it doesn't mean those things at all. To be assertive means that you're not afraid to...

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4 Ways To Handle Rude Behavior

No matter our age, dealing with rude or otherwise difficult people can be a great source of struggle and emotional pain for girls and women. Traditionally, we've often been told that the best way to respond to rude behavior or speech is to "kill them with kindness,"...

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Teach Your Daughter These 3 Tips To Cope With Stress

Stress is something we all experience (often on a regular basis), and when the pressure gets to be too much, even the strongest person can crack. Part of being a healthy, functioning adult is to know how to manage stress. However, developing the coping skills...

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Three Important Topics To Discuss With Your Teen Daughter

No matter how they act or what they say, teenage girls need their mother's influence and love - even (especially) when they push you away.  Teen research indicates that girls actually DO want their parents to talk to them about difficult and uncomfortable topics such...

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Is Your Teen Move-Out Ready? 3 Questions To Ask

If your daughter is nearing the end of high school, she (and you!) are in for some very serious changes soon. Culturally, young adults are usually expected to move out of their family's home and go on to either attend college or begin a job. These are wonderful...

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7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship With Your Teenage Daughter

It's very common for teen girls and their moms to struggle to get along. Women may wonder, "what happened to my sweet little girl?" Like it or not, she's not so little anymore, and as her mother, you may need to make some adjustments in order to stay connected with...

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How To Help Your Teenager With Anxiety

How To Help Your Teenager With Anxiety Teens have it pretty rough these days. Between peer pressure, hormones, academic stress, and social media, it's no wonder that modern teenagers are experiencing unbelievable amounts of stress, anxiety, and depression. What's more...

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3 Ways Moms Can Help Daughters Build Self Esteem

It can be challenging to raise girls in today’s culture. They can login to social media and see hundreds of photo-shopped images of seemingly-perfect women in just a few minutes. And they're likely experiencing insecurities about puberty, boys, or their own talents...

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Soft Abuse: The Damage of Emotional Mistreatment

As we continue to watch the fallout of the #MeToo movement, most all of us are horrified at the shocking descriptions of physical and sexual mistreatment that a great number of people (mostly women) in Hollywood & politics have experienced. Instinctually, we all...

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Men Behaving Badly: The Root of the Problem

The conversation surrounding sexual abuse and harassment continues, as it seems this time of reckoning is long overdue. While many articles written about this watershed moment ask questions concerning the women involved, it’s crucial that we don’t forget what this is...

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Should Women Come Forward?

In the midst of the fallout surrounding the Weinstein abuse scandal (and with more accusations against other big names coming out everyday), culturally, there is a lot to talk about. It’s hard. It’s painful. But it’s important. And as ugly as the subject matter is,...

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Sexual Abuse, #MeToo, and What We Can Do

Over the past few weeks, we’ve seen a flood of allegations of sexual misconduct against Hollywood bigwigs (first with Harvey Weinstein, then others like Kevin Spacey, Dustin Hoffman, and Ben Affleck). This prompted the social media hashtag #metoo in which women shared their own experiences of being sexually mistreated. The effect was sobering (the hashtag was posted or tweeted out over 200,000 times), and it became apparent just how disturbingly prevalent this problem is.

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Dating Abuse: What Parents Can Do To Help Their Daughters

For parents of daughters, there’s not much that strikes as much fear into our hearts as does the prospect of our girls beginning to date. The trope of a man cleaning his gun as a young man comes to pick up his daughter for a date may be for laughs, but for many of us,...

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Are Your Relationships Struggling Because of Your Career?

So you’ve arrived in the business world. You made it. Lots of hard work, long hours, and sacrifice. Congratulations! Society certainly values business success.  It used to be that climbing the career ladder was only for men, but now, women are in the arena, too. The...

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Growing-Up Girl

It’s a great time to be a girl. Never in history has there been a time where females have been so supported and so empowered. And yet, girls still struggle internally. They are known for internalizing their feelings (more than boys), which means they can look just...

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1-Minute Read: Empowering Your Teen

Most of us have long forgotten what it’s like to live the inner life of a teenager. The years of crushing self-doubt, desperation to be accepted, and search for identity. Adolescents feel life quite intensely, but most are ill-equipped to reflect objectively. They...

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1-Minute Read: Talk it Out as Your Kids Go Back to School

As a parent, it’s essential to have age-appropriate discussions with our children about tough situations they might face in the upcoming school year. These topics might include: Bullying Drama with friends Puberty Appropriate relationships with others The power of...

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1-Minute Read: Back to School Tips for Parents

So long summer and hello school! Ease the back-to-school transition with these tips for a great year! Back-to-school time can be fraught with mixed emotions for children and parents. Help your family’s transition go as smoothly as possible with these tips: Establish A...

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The Silent Crisis Among Boys

Society has changed in a way that supports girls in breaking free from gender-role stereotyping. Girls finally have more power to authentically show up in the world (to be their true selves). But “What about boys?” They face challenges too. Have we as a society gone...

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Life Is Filled With Transitions

Six years ago I started my own counseling practice - Girls Stand Strong. At the time my daughters were in elementary and middle school. I had found my passion - EMPOWERING GIRLS… to live up to their potential to understand and manage their emotions to navigate social...

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1-Minute Read: How Do You Cope With Stress?

I often hear from my clients (both women and girls) how STRESSED they are feeling. Stress is real and the effects can range from mild to serious. Studies show that chronic stress can have life-long impacts on our health (emotional and physical). To counteract stress,...

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1-Minute Read: Worried About a Possible Eating Disorder?

Most of us are familiar with Anorexia and Bulimia but there are other, not so obvious, eating disorders as well -- binge eating disorder, purge eating disorder, and night eating syndrome. Some warning signs of possible future problems include: • Over exercising •...

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1-Minute Read: To All Girls Who Struggle with Body Image

I read that 80% of all girls dislike their bodies. How very sad. Yet girls are not alone in the body-image struggle. Women also struggle. We are bombarded with images from the advertising media and social media about how we should look (i.e. perfect, 6-pack abs,...

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1-Minute Read: Does Your Child Have an Invisible Struggle?

Does your child struggle with forgetting to write down assignments, losing their homework, remembering what you just said? If so, your child may have an invisible struggle such as ADD/ADHD, Executive Function Disorder or a processing disorder. These are surprisingly...

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1-Minute Read: Is your daughter self-harming?

I know this is a scary thought, but some girls will cut themselves when they feel overwhelmed emotionally (it's a bit more complicated than that, but that’s the gist of it). Many girls struggle to deal with negative emotions and these emotions can be a trigger for...

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1-Minute Read: Helping Girls Deal with Emotional Breakdowns

Emotional breakdowns can become all too common during the preteen and teen years. We all recognize the signs: tears, anger, blow-ups, heightened sensitivity, running to their rooms and slamming the door. Whether the cause is hormones, family or relationship issues or...

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1-Minute Read: Healthy & Productive Conflict

Being able to navigate relationship conflict is essential to happiness and success in life. Conflict often indicates a struggle or a state of opposition. Because many girls and women are uncomfortable with disagreement and seek to "people please", they perceive...

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1-Minute Read: Why Girls Have More Anxiety Than Boys

Consider this as one reason why girls have more anxiety than boys… girls use social media in different (and more harmful) ways than boys. Girls tend to post more pictures of themselves (usually looking cute). Boys tend to post more pictures of themselves doing...

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1-Minute Read: Girls and Quiet Leadership

Not all leaders are loud or bossy. Not all girls are loud or bossy. Many parents want to encourage their daughters to be leaders, but many girls shy away from this title - and for good reason. Girls have different personalities and some are shy and quiet and that's...

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1-Minute Read: Don’t let your emotions runs your life

Life gives you plenty of reasons to get mad, sad, irritated and frustrated. These feelings are all okay. Sometimes, however, it may feel as though your emotions are taking over. If your emotions are feeling overwhelming to you, causing trouble in your relationships or...

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1-Minute Read: Narcissists will drain the life out of you

A narcissist often presents as super confident, but what lies behind the mask is a fragile self-esteem.  Narcissists have to be right and cannot handle criticism.   And lastly, they don't care about you (though they claim to) and they will drain the life out of you....

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1-Minute Read: Bad behavior – Don’t accept it!

As a general rule I am sure we all agree on this, but you would be surprised how many women allow others to treat them poorly. This includes spouses, children, co-workers and friends. My experience in working with women is that many have conflict avoidance. I get it....

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1-Minute Read: A path to healthy self-esteem and happiness

Want to know a better path to healthy self-esteem and happiness? Try some self-compassion. In other words, cut yourself some slack! In my work with girls and women, I have found self-compassion to be an area where women are lacking. We women can be so hard on...

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1-Minute Read: Ever have a difficult relationship?

Have you ever had a friendship that left you feeling confused, hurt or angry? It's not only our children who struggle with difficult friendships. Adults can struggle with friendships just as much as our kids. We all have them! Here are some questions I frequently...

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1-Minute Read: How to Deal with Strong Emotions

Why aren't we teaching our children how to understand their emotions? Maybe it's because we don't understand ours? Maybe it's because we have been taught to ignore or deny what we are feeling. Feelings don't lie. Our feelings are never wrong. Three steps to dealing...

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1-Minute Read: Confidence!

I have always been curious about confidence. What is it? How do you get it? Why do some people have more of it than others? As a woman and as a counselor I have been on my own journey to understand the mystery of confidence. In the February issue of the Warrenton...

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1-Minute Read: Talk About What Hurts!

We all have struggled emotionally.  I have.  You have.  Some of us talk about it and others do not. If I had not talked about my divorce when I was going through it, I would have suffered a lot more.  If I had tried to deal with my parenting struggles alone, I would...

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1-Minute Read: It’s Going to be a GREAT Year!

Why not think it's going to be a great year?  Do you believe in the power of positive thinking?  I do. Positive thinking is a mental attitude that focuses on the bright side.  A growing number of people believe in the effects of positive thinking.  Yet, it will take...

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1-Minute Read: Break the Cycle of Holiday Stress-Eating!

If you find yourself stress-eating during the holidays (or anytime), please know how very common this is for women in particular. Maybe it's our way of self-nurturing or maybe it's just how we handle stress. I have noticed with many of my clients who stress-eat that...

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1-Minute Read: Holiday Stress Getting to You?

Sometimes I think that the holiday stress is now in my DNA.  What about you?  After years of having stressful holiday moments, is it possible that I anticipate the stress without checking into the reality of my holiday situation?  Probably! Just the thoughts of all...

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1 Minute Read: The Confidence Gap

Research shows that females are less confident than males.  In my book, confidence is as important as competence. I was not confident as a child or a young adult.  I felt held back, frustrated, stuck, confused and hopeless at times.  I learned how to be confident...

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1-Minute Read: It’s easy to fall in love but…

Remember when you were planning your wedding, your future, and your entire life with the love of your life?  You were excited for your future and just knew you would live happily ever after!!!  But then... life happened. You got busy. You had kids.  He lost his job....

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1-Minute Read: Have You Been Hurt in a Relationship?

I have spent many years researching and trying to understand confusing, painful and difficult relationships.  I have had my share.  We all have.  I have challenging family relationships.  I have been divorced.  And yes, I have been hurt. We will always have...

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1-Minute Read: Secrecy and Silence Keep Shame Alive

Shame is like arsenic to women.  It literally can destroy us from the inside out.  We can feel shame so deeply… and we are so good at hiding it. Secrecy and silence keep shame alive. By now you know that I am an advocate of talking about the feelings we try so hard to...

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